Intimacy from the Page to Real Life

September 13, 2011

I’m in the middle of a month-long workshop about writing intimacy and showing sexual tension. This class is wonderful. As usual, I’m overwhelmed by all there is to learn, but I’m learning things I know will strengthen my manuscripts. Want to know something funny? What I’m learning is also strengthening my marriage.

I think it would be difficult to be a romance writer without a natural curiosity about what makes people (couples in particular) tick. I love to people watch. I love to analyze actions and words. So one would think that after twenty years of me being romantically involved with the same man that I would have all his idiosyncrasies and mannerisms memorized and I would act accordingly. Hardly.

And what about me? All those times I can’t seem to maintain eye contact or I turn away? One would think I understand my own motivations. Apparently not.

Relationships are complicated. So much so that even after we’ve long declared ourselves experts based on experience, we still have lessons to learn. What have you learned about your own relationships from the relationships you create on the page?

If you have the opportunity to take Mary Buckham’s Sex on the Page workshop, I highly recommend it. Your writing—and your relationship—will thank you.


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